We all love to pick up our cats and cuddle them, but some cats do not like to be picked up. Why? The answers are actually really simple and we will explain. We’ve all seen the photos on the internet of cats looking bored and unhappy while their owners hold them for photos.
Sometimes, when you go to pick up your cat them may complain loudly – MEOW! Other cats may just struggle against you and try to escape at every opportunity.
So, on to the WHY?
Personality & Socialisation
Some cats just don’t like to be held. Not all humans like to be touched/hugged and cats can be the same. It can also be how they were socialised as kittens. If they were left to their own devices and not picked up a lot or interacted with they will grow up to expect that and won’t like being picked up. As a foster carer I make sure to touch, cuddle and play with all the kittens who come to my house (I’m selfless that way!). This way, I know that when they go to their forever home they will like to interact with the humans that have adopted them.
Cats don’t like feeling restrained. When they are picked up it is an action against their will and it restrict their movement. Particularly cats who may have had traumatic or difficult experiences in the past (like being abandoned) will often struggle against being picked up. This is because they want to be free to escape any danger and when they are being held they can’t do that. It’s important to be understanding of this and of your cats history.
If you regularly dismiss your cats objections and pick them up they may learn to tolerate being held… but more likely they will see you as an unsafe person and stop coming to you for affection. It’s much better to go with your cats personality and quirks and love them for the affection they do show you than trying to force cuddles on them.
Ask about personality
The best thing about adopting a cat is that the staff will often know their personality (or is it… purrsonality?) and can point you towards a cat that really loves to cuddle. Many kittens have been fostered before they are available for adoption and as such the staff know what their experiences with humans have been. Don’t be afraid to ask about the personality of the cat you want to adopt.
How to change it?
With kittens, start slowly… introduce them to being picked up and cuddled and played with. When they struggle, let them down immediately so that they know they are safe. Do this often throughout the day – not just once or twice.
With adult cats, let them come to you. Again, you can pick them up and give them a brief stroke but put them down BEFORE they begin to struggle. This way they know they are safe and can learn to like the cuddle before it becomes annoying to them.
You know you love a good DIY project. Especially if it’s for your cat. We found this amazing ottoman (for really cheap) and we thought we would show you how we keep our home stylish, chick and still cat friendly.
Because we foster so many kittens we end up with so many cat toys that we need to rotate through so that the kittens don’t get bored. As such, this ottoman is PURR-fect for storing any excess toys or toys we don’t want them to play with.
So, we thought how can we make this ottoman into something versatile that will just blend in with our home? Make it a make-shift scratching post!
It’s really easy and will only take you an hour and a few simple tools.
What do you need?
Hot glue gun or nail gun
regular craft glue
scissors, ruler & a marker
What are you going to do?
Get all your items together and organised. Make sure the kittens aren’t playing with your sisal rope. Trust me, they will want to.
Measure out 1-2 inches from the top & bottom of your ottoman.
Mark this out with your marker.
Use your scissors (or sharp knife) to cut the fabric and foam.
Strip it back to expose your beautiful (mostly) naked ottoman.
Use the hot glue gun (or nail gun) to glue down the fabric on the top & bottom to prevent fraying and moving.
It should look like this…
Use the hot glue gun to start laying down your sisal rope. Overlay this with the fabric so you don’t have any gaps. If you are using a nail gun use it to nail down the first 1-3 rows. Using hot glue or a nail gun will mean that it is really securely in place and won’t tear away when your cats are having a vigorous scratch.
After the first 3 layers use the craft glue and a paintbrush to glue down the rest of the sisal rope. As you can see I ended up turning my ottoman upside down as it was easier (for me) to work from the bottom up instead of the top down.
Make sure you use the hot glue (or nail gun) every 5-6 rows to make sure it is securely glued in place.
Before you know it, you’ll be reaching the end!
Enjoy the new addition to your home. Your cats and kittens will!
Let us know what you think and don’t forget to check out our other DIY projects like the 5 minute cat tent!
We have new foster kittens and they are tiny. They came to us at just 350grams and can easily fit into my hand.
They are so cute and sweet.
We’ve even managed to carry them around in my bathrobe pockets in the morning while having coffee. It was so cute! You can check out the clip on Instagram >> seriously, you should take a look.
We love these two cuties and are so happy that they will be part of our family for now. Because they are so small, they are very good hiders. We have to be very careful when we enter/exit a room to make sure they don’t get trapped in the room.
They love to play with small toys like mice and the LOVE to chase the feathers.